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I N YOU R DR EAM S 50 Sharing sexy stuff How to get a fantasy from your head, into your bed We’d rather die than try some fantasies in reality. But others... well, you might not want to replicate them exactly, but you’d sure as hell like to capture the tummy-aching, skin-tingling, vagina-moistening, penis-lifting effect it has on your libido! Role-playing fantasies is one way to get the kick—without any of the malevolent misfires sometimes experienced by taking them through to real life. Here you’ll find tips, hints, and example scenarios to help you turn erotic thoughts into sexy, real-life escapades. Sex play is like any other game—except there are no losers. You both win with bigger, better, raunchier orgasms! Role-play Rules As with every game, following a few basic guidelines will make everything run much more smoothly. • It doesn’t have to be a literal translation—symbolism is often all that’s needed. Got a threesome fantasy? Describing what could be happening if two men were there could give a sense of having two men doing different things simultaneously. • expensive props aren’t necessary, but the more effort you make, the better it usually is. Use music and different rooms of your house for different scenarios. • Try to choose fantasies that appeal to both of you, particularly the first time around. Tailor • Work out the scenario together beforehand: often, that’s the fantasy to her just as much of a turn-on as acting it out. • Be specific about how “in character” you want each other personality. She’s girly to be—for some people, slipping back into your usual and giggly? Try silk selves, even for a minute, destroys the illusion. stockings and gentle • Don’t worry if you laugh—just keep going. Lust will threats. Ballsy, cigar- usually overtake the laughter once you start getting into it. smoking types go for • Work out an agreed “stop now” signal in case you handcuffs and barked don’t like it as much as you thought! Make your “stop” word commands. something that isn’t ever going to be used as part of the role- play. “Purple” is better than “more” for obvious reasons.

SHARING SExY StUff 53 • Choose your time and place to act out the fantasy: no roommates, dogs begging for walks, children wanting to know where their Batman suit disappeared to. • Don’t be scared to start the fantasy in public. Some—like “sex with a stranger”—lend themselves to the two of you meeting up in a bar before the real action starts. As long as you don’t dress weirdly or act abnormally, no one ever needs to know. Blindfolds mean they can feel, smell, and taste you, but not see what’s happening. Each touch, kiss, lick is loaded with sensory surprise. leT The games BegIn... these are two popular role-play scenarios to help you bring your fantasies to life. feel free to add your own twists and surprises along the way... Deflowering a “virgin” The FanTasy: Why it appeals: It’s a power game with both submissive and dominant roles, each with its pluses. Men particularly like playing the virgin, after a lifetime of being the sexual persuader. What you’ll need: If she’s doing the seducing, a “sexy secretary” outfit works well: a long pencil skirt, shirt unbuttoned to show off a push-up bra, stockings, high heels. think Mrs. Robinson. The action plan (her seducing him): • Get both of you a drink, then take him into the lounge. He sits on the couch, you sit Women who rate themselves as good opposite, crossing your legs and hiking your lovers fantasize frequently. And if skirt up. He’s not sure where to look. you prepare for future sex through • Make chit-chat to suit the scenario (he’s your anticipatory fantasies, you’re likely to friend’s son who’s dropped in to mow the be more easily aroused and enjoy sex lawn, or the shy pizza delivery boy), then more when it happens. Fantasies are make it saucier. tell him you don’t think your just the thing to transform you from husband finds you attractive. Does he think tired commuter or worn-out mom you’re attractive? What parts? Why? Let him to sultry sex goddess. The right squirm as he tries to be politically correct— scenario played in your head could and hide the erection that is starting to be just what you need to push you happen. At which point you say... over the brink from uninterested • “You’re looking a little uncomfortable. Let to erotically charged. me help you.” And you move from the chair to sit beside him on the couch.

I N YOU R DR EAM S 54 • You loosen the first two buttons of his shirt, telling him he looks hot and bothered. Rub your hand against his exposed chest, saying, Sexual desire “Such soft skin. So different from my husband’s... “. can be wickedly fueled • As he squirms, you undo the top few buttons of your shirt, by frustration. She’s take his hand, and place it on the underside of your breast. naked, he’s allowed to Ask him what it feels like and if he likes the feeling. Keep watch but not touch; making small talk. Ask him if he’s ever made love to a woman before. He’ll squeak out, “No.” Ask him if he’d like she can have oral to make love to you... It’s OK, you won’t tell and no one’s sex but must not going to walk in. orgasm. • Ask him to take off your top and your bra. tell him to touch your breasts and instruct him on how to do it. Moan and sigh, but you’re still the grown-up, so don’t get too out of control. • Ask him to stand up in front of you, unzip his pants, and take out his (by now) throbbing penis. Admire it, say how hard it is compared to men your age, then give him exquisitely torturous oral sex—stopping just short of orgasm. the idea is to bring him to a tantalizing peak but not to the point of ejaculatory inevitability (when a dozen vestal virgins couldn’t stop him from climaxing). • Undress yourself—theatrically and maintaining eye contact throughout. Let his eyes caress your body, but don’t let him touch you. Leave on your high heels, stockings, and garter belt. Pose provocatively, caress your curves. Ask him if he likes what he sees and if he wants to touch you. • Undress him, then lead him to the bed and promise to explain how to make love to a woman to make her scream. Honor the promise. Each touch, kiss, fondle, thrust is his very first, remember. At first he touches reverently, then he’s lost in a frenzy of passion. • the fantasy ends when he loses control Some classic fantasy scenarios completely—which he will in about three to whet your appetite... minutes if you’ve played your part properly! • boss and secretary • burglar surprises sleeping beauty • biker The sex slave The FanTasy: gang “forces” innocent girl into doing Why it appeals: Having someone under naughty things • cheerleader and our complete sexual command has obvious football team • doctor and nurse benefits. You don’t have to worry about the • firefighter rescues very grateful “no, you first, honey” niceties of sex: it’s all victim • prostitute and john about YOUR pleasure. Meanwhile, the “slave” • police arrest (complete with cuffs) is “forced” to perform acts they’d secretly love • priest and nun • rock star and to try, but wouldn’t dare suggest. groupie • principal/teacher What you’ll need to act it out: with student for this example, she’s the slave and he’s the master. Jeans and a leather jacket, undone over

SHARING SExY StUff 57 a naked chest, sets the scene nicely. You’ll also need a blindfold, scarves or old stockings to tie her up, and a wooden spoon or hairbrush. She’s completely naked—helpless and vulnerable (exactly how you want her!). Don’t assume that what did the trick the night before will put a twinkle in their eye the next day. Our moods and desires change constantly. The action plan: • try to keep an expressionless face. Don’t say, “Are you OK?”, “Did I hurt you?”, “Are you sure you’re enjoying this?” this isn’t about her, it’s all about you!!! You’re the master, she’s the slave! • Start by ordering her to do small tasks—get you a drink, fluff up the pillows, give you a massage. • Don’t ask, order. Make it clear you are the boss and she is not to misbehave or she’ll be punished (spank her with the wooden spoon or back of the hairbrush). • Once you’re both nicely in character, order her to sit or lie down, face turned away from you, blindfold her, and tie her hands behind her back. Push her forward into a submissive position. She’s now naked, bound, and blindfolded—completely at your mercy! • Grab your wooden spoon or brush and administer a few short, sharp whacks on her bottom— even better if she begs you to stop. • Start caressing her. Reach in between her legs— wait until she’s moaning for more, then stop. • tell her you decide what she gets and Sexual fantasies usually revolve when—and she has to satisfy you first. around control, and the amount • turn her around and order her to pleasure of power the person has in real life you. She can use her mouth; untie her hands often dictates how much they want if you want, but keep the blindfold on. in their fantasy life. After a day of • No matter how pleasurable, punctuate her being the top decision-maker, being stimulation of you by pushing her away when bossed around in the bedroom she seems to be enjoying herself the most. could be a CEO’s idea of power tell her she’s been a bad girl. paradise. Someone who’s bullied • tease her: start to give her oral sex, then relentlessly by superiors will usually stop. Push your fingers inside her and when opt for a rapturous role reversal she starts thrusting against them, stop. where they get to wield the • the fantasy ends by you announcing whip (perhaps literally). (dramatically) that she’s now free from her slavery—to service you.